I have been thinking a lot about this lately, because i have been asking a lot of "why" questions about my situation. "Why does so and so have such and such even though they are making bad choices?" "Why can't i have such and such because i am making the choice to stay at home?"
Absolutely horrible. I know.
It's just been hard lately to see so many people who have so much and are not making the best of choices. And then to see so many people making righteous choices and have so little.
I know that i am blessed. And that we have what we have because of our Father in Heaven. But i've just been struggling with the "letting it go" part.
So my New Year's Resolution as a stay-at-home mom is to face all the why's of less money, less, things, no vacations, and just let it go.
Something i am trying to sink into my brain is that righteous decisions do not always yield temporal blessings- but they do always result in spiritual ones. A really good friend recommended i read Dr. Laura's book "In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms". And it is incredible. Right off the bat she talks about how it can be hard to stay committed to something that does not always yield immediate results- especially monetary results. But that staying home with our kids is an investment in their futures. My boys are sons of God, with the potential to become as He is. They deserve a loving mother to raise them in righteousness 100% more than new clothes, vacations, or the latest toys.
And while most everyone else might have more money and worldly things, i need to not ask why, and just let it go. Because my choice is to be a stay-at-home mom. And this righteous decision will not always yield temporal or monetary blessings but it is the right thing to do.
We have always had everything we need. And that is all we need.
I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood. -Elder M. Russell Ballard
So bring on the "whys" and i will try to let them go!!!
Jen- I had no idea you had this blog..it's awesome! Being a stay at home Mom is the greatest thing I have ever done! I'm glad you give recognition to those women who sacrifice a lot to stay at home. I love your attitude and your New Years Resolution to not ask why. I've been lucky in the sense that I've always been blessed with the ability to not let what others have or don't have bother me. As hard as it can be sometimes, I have always counted my blessings rather than the things I wanted or didn't have. I too feel very blessed to be able to watch my children grow, give them great experiences in life, and to teach them what is right so they can gain a testimony through my example. Here's to a great New Year!
ReplyDeleteTo both my sis's! I look up to you both and also hope one day-maybe if I'm lucky!-I too can be a mom and a wife and be able to raise my kids. I look up to you both and say-her'es to hopin! :)
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